tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-50110573133385526082024-03-04T20:36:59.529-08:00Kitty's KornerKitty69http://www.blogger.com/profile/12139277903888725162noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5011057313338552608.post-1141121843061937082010-10-24T05:32:00.000-07:002010-10-24T05:48:29.850-07:00$$$ Money Isn't Happiness, People $$$My boyfriend's family is very well off; the dad make nearly 1/4 of a million every year, the mom works too, and they can afford virtually anything their hearts could desire, yet they are still unhappy. Why you ask? I have been told that their marriage is next to perfect: the flame is still there, they love each other to the ends of the earth, the romance is present no matter where they are....but they fight. Over MONEY. Having a net worth of at least a couple million with their private golf-course, gated community neighborhood, I have never heard of a bigger waste of life. Especially when it begins to damage their son's self-esteem, self worth, and overall outlook on life. I want to just scream.<br /><br />Recently, I have found a few sayings to keep in mind when it comes to stressing out over money. I wanted so badly to send them to his miser of a father, but I did not want to be ousted from the family, because I know if you plan on marrying someone, you automatically marry their family too. I have to pick my battles, and trying to talk sense into this power-monger would be pointless and impossible. Not only because the money skews his perspective and priorities in life, but because he would automatically disregard anything I had to say because I'm only 19 and have a vagina: pretty sad. But yea, enough of my venting about parents who do more damage than good, here is the list of sayings to prevent miser-ism from creeping up on you when you are in a pinch or when you are allowing the joy to be sucked out of your life by green paper with faces of the presidents on them:<br /><span style="font-family: lucida grande;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><h3 style="font-weight: normal; font-family: lucida grande;" class="UIIntentionalStory_Message" ft="{"type":"msg"}"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span class="UIStory_Message">For <span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(204, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" >Epicurus</span>, <span style="color: rgb(51, 102, 255);font-size:130%;" >happiness</span> is the <span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(102, 0, 204);">absence of either physical pain or mental suffering</span>. He is not interested in an ostentatious display of either wealth or joy, but rather the inner tranquility that comes from leading a good life.<br /><br />Epicurus<br />on Wealth and Happiness: <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" >Money is Not the Key to Living a Good Life</span><br /><br /><span class="text_exposed_hide">...</span><span class="text_exposed_show"><a href="http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache%3ASjEueeuWNpcJ%3Awww.suite101.com%2Fcontent%2Fepicurus-on-wealth-and-happiness-a70606+the+key+to+life+is+not+money&cd=3&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us#ixzz12kbLtQvs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"><span>http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/se</span><wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>arch?q=cache%3ASjEueeuWNpcJ%3Awww.suite1</span><wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>01.com%2Fcontent%2Fepicurus-on-wealth-an</span><wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>d-happiness-a70606+the+key+to+life+is+no</span><wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>t+money&cd=3&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us#ixzz12k</span><wbr><span class="word_break"></span>bLtQvs</a></span></span></span></h3><span style="font-family: lucida grande;font-size:100%;" ></span><h3 style="font-weight: normal; font-family: lucida grande;" class="UIIntentionalStory_Message" ft="{"type":"msg"}"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span class="UIStory_Message"><span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;">The poor complain about the money they can't get and the rich complain about the money they can't keep.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);">Fools sometimes make money but money also sometimes makes fools.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(153, 102, 51);">Laziness is like money - the more a man has of it the more he wants.</span><br /><span class="text_exposed_hide"></span><span class="text_exposed_show"><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">The best thing that parents can spend on their kids is time - not money.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 102, 255);">A budget enables you to spend money without enjoying it.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="color: rgb(153, 51, 153);">A budget is an attempt to live below your yearnings.</span></span></span></span></span></h3><span style="font-family: lucida grande; font-weight: bold; color: rgb(153, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" ></span><h3 style="font-weight: normal; font-family: lucida grande;" class="UIIntentionalStory_Message" ft="{"type":"msg"}"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span class="UIStory_Message"><span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(153, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" >It's better to live richly, than to die rich.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);font-size:130%;" >No amount of riches can atone for poverty of character.<br /></span><br /><span class="text_exposed_hide"></span><span class="text_exposed_show"><span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(204, 153, 51);">In your search for riches, don't lose the things that money can't buy.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">Contentment in life arrives not from great wealth, but from simple wants.</span><br /></span><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 204, 204);font-size:180%;" >It is what we value, not what we have, that makes us rich.<br /></span><br /><span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(153, 51, 153);">Those who lose sight of health in the pursuit of wealth usually wind up losing both.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" >Some give according to their means, and some according to their meanness.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);">A miser might be pretty tough to live with, but he often makes a nice ancestor.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0);font-size:130%;" >Last Christmas a stingy father told his children that Santa Claus had been drafted into the army.</span><br /><br /><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 255);">An upright man can never be a downright failure.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(102, 0, 204);font-size:130%;" >It is not by purse, but by character that you are rich or poor.</span></span></span></span></h3>Kitty69http://www.blogger.com/profile/12139277903888725162noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5011057313338552608.post-26503173552910077372010-01-22T09:57:00.000-08:002010-01-22T10:32:32.909-08:00Give into Adventure & Let Yourself Live<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhtdajntnYfOm1C9PLJKKtQ9gfTJ9keccl3Aif35EVY5nPvm-UQ_4mgG7SzGVhljEgulnuu8loPb5TS_kNizpb9xOwpFN7koq3O5EQXgst7827HRuyzUsBUhcm2cZANodGNTHnbWgmUgHYB/s1600-h/footprints.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 214px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhtdajntnYfOm1C9PLJKKtQ9gfTJ9keccl3Aif35EVY5nPvm-UQ_4mgG7SzGVhljEgulnuu8loPb5TS_kNizpb9xOwpFN7koq3O5EQXgst7827HRuyzUsBUhcm2cZANodGNTHnbWgmUgHYB/s320/footprints.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5429633829251061970" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>Going along with relationship troubles, a significant contributor to the problems and frustrations many experience in their love life occurs when the instigator of a relationship encounters another individual who withholds their feelings out of fear of something new and different; or simply the fear and paranoia of another emotional letdown caused by allowing a new intimate relationship into their lives.<div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>I personally have had many experiences in which, even when I have approached another individual expressing my interest and intrigue with them, many seem to shy away and be more reserved than they initially seemed to come across. I have concluded that the explanation for this odd and inconvenient change in behavioral and social patterns is that many people are intimidated by me. Apparently in this world brains, an independent disposition, a strong personality, and a striking appearance can be both a blessing and a curse. Many men are afraid to approach me out of fear of rejection and thus personal humiliation: they automatically assume that tall, thin, blonde means instantly taken, which to their disadvantage, robs them of an opportunity to make a new friend or get to know someone who could change their lives for the better. I am not being egotistical, but merely providing an example from my own personal experiences to give advice to others who may not see it from these alternative angles.</div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>Many women I know automatically assume there is something wrong with themselves that makes them unapproachable; they begin to get down on themselves because they fear their loneliness is simply the result of their outer appearance, their age, their social standing, etc. When in fact, it is because most men are easily intimidated, and those who are not are simply using a massive ego to conceal some underlying insecurity which is also easily provoked. It is very simple: especially with those who have recently been dubbed as "single" or has left a long term, on and off relationship to find something new and different and better.</div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>People are scared of trying new things, having adventure, and living in the moment...and with relationships this fear can cause hesitation which can prove to be very disadvantageous in ones pursuit of companionship and even life in general.</div><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#990000;">Never Be Afraid to Try New Things & Live in the Moment...</span></span></b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#990000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"> ...or you will deprive yourself of all life's little adventures and joys that makes it worth living</span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">keeps you feeling </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#333399;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><b>ALIVE...</b></span></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"> It seems that no matter how I present myself or try to seem as neutral/harmless as possible,</span></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">I still intimidate those whom I approach, even in the friendliest of manners and mindsets...but it</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">took me a few years to figure out that it was not because I was unattractive or overbearing...but</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">because of others' fears of something new and different that I was getting little to no response from</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">those with whom I attempted to kindle a friendship or even relationship...</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>My point being, from past experience through present, no matter what, do </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><b>NOT </b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;">allow yourself</span></span></span></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">to become discouraged or put down by these little bumps in the road. Just continue with your</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">efforts to make yourself happy and find your niche in this world...and most importantly...</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><br /></span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;">Do</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#339999;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#990000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;">NOT</span></span> </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;">be afraid to allow yourself to have </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFCC00;">fun</span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#00CCCC;">Adventure</span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC33CC;">Joy</span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;">and </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#3333FF;">live life</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"> to the </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#6600CC;">FULLEST</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;">....</span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:large;"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:large;"><b><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal; font-size:medium;">...you owe it to yourself to be willing to try new things and stop constantly worrying about what</span></span></b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">it is that tomorrow will bring...Be reasonable and responsible, of course...but I urge you more than anything</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;">to learn to</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC33CC;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;">Live for the moment</span></b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC33CC;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;">Live in the moment</span></b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC33CC;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:x-large;"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC33CC;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" white-space: pre;font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;">...if you cannot allow yourself to do what makes you happy and live for what you <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;">crave</span></span></b>... for what you</span></span></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#6600CC;">LOVE<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;">...what you <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000099;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;">YEARN for <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">...then what would life be worth living for?</span></span></span></span></span></b></span></span></span></span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#006600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#006600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;">The meaning of life? Adventure</span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#00CCCC;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';"><br /></span></span></span></b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre; "><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#00CCCC;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">"</span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal; white-space: normal; line-height: 14px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#00CCCC;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">In the time it takes to say the word ‘now’, that moment has already slipped from our grasp. And while we can’t hang onto the present, it’s the most real thing we have. We alone decide how to make the best use of the here and now."</span></span></span></span></b></span></div>Kitty69http://www.blogger.com/profile/12139277903888725162noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5011057313338552608.post-62046542943540521492010-01-21T13:29:00.000-08:002010-01-21T14:19:18.690-08:00Desperately In love? Or seeking an Emotional Bandaid?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhThnQjFbwyn5oaVUllAjF3pj3ndSTIi-Eq3ctJZyVhmxZlSMrZj8tdbYzg9gZwA7VjCc65x4vuwFN43nB5GfrEx-_KOCDcoLft8hxgyPZKTZpGNrfQdh9ai26H91SRguR3p-XFwpWxhDYX/s1600-h/1179442234_ing20heart.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 226px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhThnQjFbwyn5oaVUllAjF3pj3ndSTIi-Eq3ctJZyVhmxZlSMrZj8tdbYzg9gZwA7VjCc65x4vuwFN43nB5GfrEx-_KOCDcoLft8hxgyPZKTZpGNrfQdh9ai26H91SRguR3p-XFwpWxhDYX/s320/1179442234_ing20heart.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5429320948148410530" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>I have been through some rough times in my life. Very rough. Which many cannot even begin to fathom. And at age 18, I seem to know more about the world and how easily emotions and morale can be manipulated by both the evils and the happiness within it...<div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>I have taught myself to build <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000099;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'trebuchet ms';">walls</span></b></span> around my core, so anyone who approaches me cannot hear the beating behind which indicates that I do indeed have a <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><b><i>heart</i></b></span> with the tendency to <i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b>bleed</b></span></span></i> for those whom I let in. Permission to access anything beyond this concrete mask of protection is exclusive and granted about as often as there is a blue moon in the sky.</div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"></span><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>Though there is a barrier, with enough hard work, dedication, and determination, one can possibly penetrate them and gain access to the thrills and chills they may only experience in their wildest dreams and fantasies...why do I write this here? Because it needs to be written. I cannot speak it. I cannot physically portray it through my art. Only my words on paper. In this case, the electronic substitution for such media will suffice.</div><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>I know many people post about <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#660000;"><b>love and emotional complications</b></span> which they experience in the hope that<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CCFF;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CCFF;">someone</span></b> has an answer out there for them; even some words of comfort or consolidation. This posting is more or less to shed upon you the advice and insight which I personally consider to be very helpful and useful, though I cannot take it or live by it myself. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC33CC;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><b>Oh sweet sweet spiteful irony!</b></span></span></span></div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>We all <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#006600;"><b>naturally</b></span> feel that each one of us has their own perfect companion, waiting out there....just waiting to meet their own counterpart and experience a sense of completion: fulfillment. It is human nature to be <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000099;">socially driven</span></b>...but many of us tend to stir around in our own thoughts and r<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#6633FF;">uminate on the feeling of loneliness</span></b> , making it a much more prominent and overpowering fact of life than it was initially programmed in our minds to be. Media boasts that those who are lonely are those who are forever feeling incomplete, lost, and isolated. It seems everywhere you go, there are happy couples holding hands and enjoying a deeply entwined relationship which you yourself see and long for: believing you will feel complete once you can finally obtain said <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#990000;"><i>coveted partnership</i></span>.</div><div><br /></div><div>Quit fooling yourself. Give yourself more credit. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:verdana;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFCC33;">Live your life</span></b></span></span>. Have <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#330099;">FUN</span></span></b> with yourself, by yourself: learn how to <b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#6600CC;">be your own best friend</span></i></b>.</div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>Though it is very very true (as many of us all know the feeling), there is nothing that can compare with the soft kiss of affection or caress of the neck from a significant other...but life has many other physical sensations that can easily surpass those experienced with the thrill of new love/being loved. I have learned long ago that dependance on affection will only act as a crutch and hinder me in my efforts to <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#3333FF;">feel fulfilled</span></b>...like I have a purpose. I still seem to lose my self-esteem when I deem my only value or sense of worth as being my emotional investment and contribution to another to whom I am committed. When I am without a "purpose" or a person upon whom I can please and make happy...</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#660000;"><i>I feel like I have no value to the world: I feel I have </i></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#660000;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;">lost </span></i></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#660000;"><i>the meaning of my life...my existence....</i></span></div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>I'm trying to work on it. Desperately trying to reprogram myself to value me for me and all positive aspects of who I am and what else I can do apart from making someone else happy.</div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span>A relationship is a <b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFCC66;">cheap & easy, tangible solution</span></i></b> for those of us who feel as though there is a void in our souls which we must fill to feel complete. This "I will feel whole again with the right man/woman in my life" theory is a plastic excuse-of-a-fix to this void...this gaping hole. Even after finding "the one", you still are two separate people: two beings who, as much as you may <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#006600;">WANT to merge into one</span></b>, still must <i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#336666;">find satisfaction and happiness within yourself</span></i>...through yourself...for yourself. The emotional understanding and connection with another human being definitely has its value and contribution to the soothing of the open wounds of bleeding hearts...but in the end, it is not what will resolve the unsettling sense of being <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;">lost</span></span> and lacking direction in your <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF0000;">life</span></b></span>. </div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#333399;">Do not let the media and social pressures make you starved</span></span> for the need of a here-and-now lover/relationship to feel valuable. The most important thing you can do is <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6666;">love yourself</span></i><b> </b></span>and stop looking for another human being to be your solution. The only solution that is real, satisfying, and permanent lies not in the need for purpose through the eyes of another, but the ability to be happy with yourself....<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#3333FF;">be happy with being by yourself</span></b>. I find the best way to do so is to become one with nature. </div><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#00CCCC;"><b>Go out and feel the cool, calming kiss of the rain on </b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#00CCCC;"><b>your skin or the warm caress of the sun on your face.</b></span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div> After all, <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#006600;">it is in nature that man truly belongs</span></b>, be it in the arms of a fellow human or completely solitary. We are all looking for happiness. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;">Rarely</span> does another who is <i><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC33CC;">busy looking for their own version of the sensation </span></b></i>assist you in the pursuit of your own. Just be satisfied knowing you exist in a world of others looking for the same sense of purpose and fulfillment, and know you can be the band-aid to your own bleeding heart when you can finally take a look in the mirror and see the image of someone whom you know is content and living their lives to the fullest on their own accord: because...</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF9900;">it is not until we are content and okay with</span> <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#00CCCC;">ourselves</span></span></b> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF9900;">that we can really pursue our</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC9933;"> </span><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#6600CC;">dreams</span></i></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF9900;"> and </span><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#330099;">achieve</span></i></b> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF9900;">the monumental feeling of </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#6600CC;">utmost vivacity and pleasure</span></span></i>.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>Kitty69http://www.blogger.com/profile/12139277903888725162noreply@blogger.com0